CHILDREN ARE THE NATION -BUILDERS OF TOMORROW

Our CHILDREN are the rock on which our future will be built ,our greatest asset as a nation.They will be the leaders of our country,the creators of our NATIONAL WEALTH.The true character of society is revealed in how it treats it’s children.

By DR SHELLY SINGHAL

HOW TO KNOW IF CHILD IS FACING ANY BEHAVIOR Or ISSUES?

Determining whether or not your child is experiencing depression or anxiety is difficult. Kids experience complex feelings just like adults. They get frustrated, excited, nervous, sad, jealous, frightened, worried,angry and embarrassed.CHILDREN express their feelings through facial expressions, through their body, their behavior and play. If child struggles with intense emotional reactions, disruptions in mood or behavior ,or is easily set off by minor triggers,then they need assistance.”WARNING SIGNS INCLUDE ANY SUDDEN CHANGE IN MOOD OR BEHAVIOUR,OR IF CHILD IS FACING DIFFICULTY IN DOING DAY TO DAY TASKS ,CHILD NEEDS HELP.

WHEN TO TAKE AN ACTION:

A. If a child ‘s behaviour is causing chronic trouble in school,at home, disturbing family life it’s important to take a help.Disruptive behaviour can be generated by anxiety,trauma ,frustrations from undiagnosed problems.

B.A child who is excessively FEARFUL could become an adolescent whose identity and social life are structured around avoiding things that make them anxious.

C.Eating disorders for longer time in children creates long term problem in a child which can be difficult to recover.

D. If child is hurting herself time and again,it can be a dangerous behaviour which needs help immediately.

E.REASONS FOR CHANGE IN CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR:

“The common bond that links all Children is their need for loving environment by family members.Yet even when parents and other members of family provide nurturing home environment, sometimes children still need extra support.The common reasons for alterations in child mood canbe ANXIETY,BEDWETTING,BLENDED FAMILY ISSUES, BROKEN FAMILIES,BULLYING AT SCHOOL,GRIEF AND LOSS OF NEAR AND DEAR ONES, SIBLINGS CONFLICT,SLEEP PATTERN ISSUES,COPING WITH SEPERATION AND DIVORCE OF PARENTS,NUCLEAR FAMILIES, WORKING PARENTS“

Due to emerging concept of NUCLEAR FAMILIES , children are going away from moral values, missing grandparents story times.

Growing use of electronic media like,TV, mobile phone, laptops,video games also affecting children’s mental health at advance level.

TYPES OF BEHAVIOURAL AND EMOTIONAL ISSUES IN CHILDREN:

DEFIANCE; It includes Attention Deficit Hyperactivity disorder(ADHD),Conduct Disorder(CD),Oppositional Defiant Disorder(ODD).

ODD-most commonly happen in boys then girls.problems comprising of Easily angered,annoyed, frequent temper tantrums ,refuses to obey rules etc

CD-common problem involved lack of empathy for others,being aggressive against animals ,other other people, frequent lying, criminal behaviour like stealing, destructive mind

ADHD- commonly seen problems include difficulty in concentration, forgetting instructions,moving from one task to another without completing anything, impulsiveness, constant restlessness, repeated violations of rules.

BEHAVIOUR ISSUES IN CHILDREN CAN LEAD TO STRESS AND FRUSTRATION FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY.

TIPS TO HANDLE BEHAVIOUR ISSUES IN CHILDREN;

A.Don’t react; when you react or respond to your child’s bad behaviour,you are encouraging her.

B.Stay positive;When you consider your child as a problem,you cannot find effective ways to deal with his behaviour.

C.Be consistent;In your reaction or responses to your child’s behaviour.Give same responses to their conduct.

D.It is okay to change the old habits like cutting down TV ,video game time or other activities.

E.Be a role model;Children of all ages learn by observation and imitate you because they assume that there parents know the best.

F.Disciplinary is necessary; it is effective only when it is valid.

G.Relax: Don’t worry too much about usual yelling, arguments and defiance.

H.Use child BEHAVIOUR CHART for rewarding of Good behaviour.

I.Introduction of ACTIVITIES like exercise,role playing,ask your child to read aloud,story telling,telling them about good deeds,kindness,sharing saying nice things to others.

If you think situation is out of your hands ,do not hesitate to approach a child behaviour specialist, therapist or a counselor.

With the right approach ,a child can grow into a loving,kind, intelligent and reasonable person.Treatment options include parent management training,medication, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)